Every day I work with clients to help them learn how to let go, accept, redefine and find themselves. Often times we work on owning our stories and not allowing our whole selves to be defined by something that has happened to us or a mistake we've made or a loss or trauma we have suffered. A lot of what I do is help my clients figure out how to be happy and healthy after things do not end up how they had hoped for, pictured or planned for. I help, I teach and I model, as I have fought this recovery battle myself. We all have an epic story, and we all have hardship in our lives. Because hard is hard. Where we often get tripped up is in how we integrate these pieces of our stories into our whole, and hopefully one day, recovered selves.
I often get asked things like...
"How long will I hold onto this?"
"Will this ever get easier?"
"Will I ever stop thinking about it?"
The thing is, our lives are our puzzles.
Our life, our story, is a million piece jigsaw puzzle made up of pieces in every color, size and shape possible.
A puzzlethat will always have some missing pieces.
As it takes our lifetime to complete.
A puzzle that will have missing pieces forever, if we don't face the work we need to do to recover from whatever we need to recover from. Leaving an incomplete picture if we don't do this work. Sure, we may not notice the gaping holes in the whole picture from afar, but when we really look closely they will be impossible to ignore.
As they are missing pieces of us.
A puzzle that only we hold all the pieces to.
When we do the work that we need to live a happy, fulfilled, authentically brave life and to heal ourselves we place every puzzle piece into place. We not only place each piece into it's perfect home, we also push it down.
Therefore, making the seamless picture of our intricately flawed, and yet perfectly imperfect beautiful lives.
Sure up close, one will see all the individual pieces of our stories but from afar they will simply see us. All of us.
We are made up of all the pieces of our puzzle; each moment of our lives completing the picture and each story defining parts of who we are.
But, we must remember we hold the pieces ourselves, as we have the power for change and recovery.
We have the power to complete our puzzle and therefore truly, and bravely, embrace and own all the pieces of us.